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Holding Patterns

“I am choosing to show up and nurture every part of me that needs love, healing and support.” ~ Alex Elle

I have always been a firm believer in the poem Reason, Season or A Lifetime and it was the Daily Encourager email about Holding Patterns, which ironically, I received on my birthday, that only reaffirmed my belief that things, circumstances or people often come into our lives for a reason, maybe for a season and sometimes for a lifetime. I now begin each day by reading the passage and saying the prayer at the end. I share it with you and may we all journey wisely and never lose our faith when we encounter a holding pattern season.

Namasté.

Holding Patterns

Many times, God will allow a painful situation or a painful circumstance in our life to “swallow us up.” This season in our spiritual growth is a “holding pattern”. We can’t move to the left or the right. All we can do is sit, like Jonah sat in the belly of that great fish, so God can have our undivided attention and speak to us.

God put Jonah in a “holding pattern” because He needed to speak to his heart. Jonah was all alone. There were no friends to call, no colleagues to drop by, no books to read, no food to eat, no interferences, and no interruptions. He had plenty of time to sit, think, meditate, and pray.

When we’re deep down in the midst of a difficult situation, God can talk to us. When He has our undivided attention, He can show us things about ourselves that we might not otherwise have seen.

A few of God’s holding patterns:

• When you are sick in your physical body and you have prayed but you are not yet healed, you are in a holding pattern.

• When you are having problems with your children and you have put them on the altar, but God has not delivered them yet, you are in a holding pattern.

• When you have been praying for a loved one to return to God, and they have not come back yet, you are in a holding pattern.

• When you are in a broken relationship and you have given it over to God, but it has not been restored yet, you are in a holding pattern.

• When the doors slam shut before you can even knock on them, you are in a holding pattern.

When we are deep in the belly of a difficult situation, there are no interruptions. God has our undivided attention. All we can do is sit, think, meditate, and pray. Like Jonah, we cannot run from God, because there are no mountains that are high enough, valleys that are low enough, rivers that are wide enough, rooms that are dark enough, or places that are hidden from Him.

We must remember to praise Him while we’re waiting, remember three things:

• The pattern has a purpose.

• The pattern has a plan.

• The pattern has a process.

So stop struggling and start listening, praying and trusting. He’ll keep you right where you are until you can clearly hear Him say, “I love you.”

Suggested Prayer: Father, forgive my unbelief. I know you love me and I will come to see the benefit of everything in my life, even this holding pattern, and the manifestation of my Good is assured through You. You have planned nothing for me but victories and I am ready to receive them regardless of how difficult the path.

“When you follow your heart, you follow God, and you’ll find your own path to your own deepest peace and happiness.” – R Hauser

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Walking Away

“If you want more in your life, more connection, more meaning, more fulfillment, you have to shift your attention to something deeper and truer. It will be from that pure and sacred place that you can attract more goodness in your life.” ~ Oprah

It’s very sad when the people we want to feel the closest to are separate from us. There are times that the image of extended family sitting or standing around for any type of gathering is portrayed to be an ideal scenario but it can be a nightmare for many. You can feel trapped in a box of others fixed opinions, reactions and judgments.

For some time now, I have been on this journey of trying, with every ounce of my being, to create peace in my life and this I know for sure, if people or environments don’t feel welcoming, comfortable, no longer familiar or more importantly, like home, I am extremely comfortable with walking away and trust this, there are no hard feelings. I have become comfortable enough with who I am and the choices that feel right for me. At this stage of my life, I owe nothing to anyone, except myself. I have learned to always follow my gut and my heart, along with seeing and hearing with the eyes and ears that God has gifted me. They all allow me to feel and see the genuine and real in myself and the people around me.

I have learned to listen to God’s whisper and it will always be His silent voice that will direct me as to when it is time to walk away. That’s what you do when the negative forces of others attempt to invade your space. It’s what you do when you have had enough with being taken advantage of or disrespected or drained not only physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You walk away and you focus on what’s meaningful to your life. It’s called self care. It brings so much more meaning to your life.

As I walk away, it will always be with forgiveness in my heart, along with silently wishing you peace but before I walk away, I offer these words of wisdom to the unconscious. Know this, you’re not entitled. Stop expecting. Stop assuming. Stop being defensive. Stop complaining. Stop judging. Stop taking people for granted. Mind your business. If it’s not your story to share, don’t share it. You also may want to consider waking up because you’re missing out on the beauty of the world, a good life, the people that truly love you and above all, always say thank you for another day and the blessing, along with the opportunity to be consciously alive.

Be grateful. Be humble. Be loving. Be considerate. Be kind. Be hopeful. Rise above it all. Build each other up. Be unique. Be bold. Be truer. Embrace each other. Life is too short to attract, want or expect anything less than goodness in our lives.

As always, just continuing to keep it real in 2019 and shifting my attention, along with my intentions to all things that bring goodness to my life.

Happy New Year!

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Fearlessness & The Crusade

“The first part of looking at our fear is just inviting it into our awareness without judgment. We just acknowledge gently that it is there. This brings a lot of relief already. Then, once our fear has calmed down, we can embrace it tenderly, and look deeply into its roots, its sources. Understanding the origins of our anxieties, and fears will help us let go of them. When we practice inviting all our fears up, we become aware that we are still alive, that we still have many things to treasure and enjoy. If we are not pushing down, and managing our fear, we can enjoy the sunshine, the fog, the air, and the water. If you can look deep into your fear, and have a clear vision of it, then you really can live a life that is worthwhile.”            ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

A little over a year ago, my niece, Christina, at the age of 22, who a few months early had just graduated from Quinnipiac University, was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. It was devastating news to her, and the entire family, and life would never be the same. As a family, we always have believed, “things happen for a reason”, and that there was a bigger reason than we all could have imagined as to the why. I believe it was facing that fear head on that provided Christina with the courage, and strength to get through probably what will be her most difficult life challenge. I also believe that once you read Christina’s story (in the link below), you will most certainly agree, she is an amazing, incredible young lady, and a shining light of hope for all of us. I ask who wouldn’t want to be a part of trying to help someone find the strength, courage, fearlessness, and hope to fight the fight, and more importantly, taking part in supporting, and helping to find a cure. Spreading the word doesn’t take a lot of effort, and interestingly enough, a stranger found Christina’s link on Facebook, and she was so touched by Christina’s story, and found her to be such an inspiration that she not only donated but left a beautiful message on Christina’s Crusaders homepage.

Recently, I looked up the definition of a humanitarian…”someone who is devoted, and actively engaged in the promotion of human welfare, along with the happiness of people. A person having the interests of mankind at heart, and a person who is markedly or motivated by concern with the alleviation of suffering of others”. When I think of the word humanitarian, and its definition, I think of Christina, and all that she has accomplished in the last year, both personally, and with helping others. This past month there was an article written in the New Rochelle Patch noting Christina’s achievement of being named by The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society as an Honored Patient for its 2013 Westchester Light The Night® Walk. As an Honored Patient, she will be making a speech at this year’s walk at Rye Playland on November 2nd .  Her family, friends, and Christina’s Crusaders will be front, and center, with great pride, to support her, and to hear her speak about her year long journey.

This year, Christina celebrates her remission, and continues her work on the path of her new found “life purpose” of helping, encouraging, and supporting others with cancer to fight the fight, and proving to them that they can beat cancer. Christina is a remarkable young lady, with an enormous amount of courage, and strength. She is my inspiration to continue the course as a Crusader with helping to find a cure, and as I get older, and older, the words…Someday is today, has more, and more of a meaningful definition with finding a cure, and about life…a precious gift, never to be taken for granted.

As a Crusader…my vigorous concerted movement for the cause is to continue to be a voice of awareness for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, for Christina, and a champion for finding a cure. Many have heard the story of her journey, and her fight with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma through Facebook. However, do many also know the stories behind the lives of Jaymie, Kimmie, Gail, Doug, Alex, Melissa, James and Isaac (just to name a few), and their incredible, challenging life journey with getting to the promise land of remission. They are all survivors with heart wrenching, touching, and miraculous stories just like Christina’s. I find when I read their stories, they touch me so deep that it just makes me want to crusade even harder to find supporters who understand how important it is to help find a cure.

My mission has always been to be a voice, and over the last month, and the past year, my Facebook posts have been about awareness, and pleas for support with helping to find a cure. Now, I am here and please allow me a moment to put some insight around my efforts. Between my two Facebook pages, Divine Delectables and Divine Designs by Deborah, my recent posts have reached 16,230 members. As a page owner, each post I promote cost dollars…dollars, which I am willing to spend just to increase the audience, who read my awareness posts, and to find additional supporters willing to donate with the hopes of finding a cure.

Here are some simple math facts…just ONE DOLLAR ($1) of a donation from each one of those viewers would have brought the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, $16,230 closer to finding a cure. Now, let’s put a meatier twist on that number, and say each viewer donated FIVE DOLLARS ($5)….that’s $81,150. Oh, but wait, let me take it to whole other level of a TEN DOLLAR ($10) donation…that’s $162,300 closer to finding a CURE! Absolutely, incredible! However, interestingly enough, even with the high number of viewer’s…very few donations have come in, which is a little mind boggling to me. What does it take to sacrifice one small thing, today, to help others towards a better tomorrow? Not much! Who is willing to sacrifice one latté, one beer, one martini or maybe something as simple as a dessert or a candy bar, and donate those small dollars to help find a cure or to assist a cancer patient with their medical treatment? Is it you?

So here’s Divine Delectables and Divine Designs by Deborah’s challenge, and this is where all you readers come into play…are you a crusader for the cause or are you just a curious reader that’s leaving the fight to find a cure to everyone else? No donation is considered too small, and if you are worried about the amount appearing on our homepage, you have the option to donate anonymously…your donation amount does not need to appear nor does your name.

Every single one of us has a purpose in life. Maybe you have been lucky enough to find yours or maybe you’re still searching or working towards finding it, and maybe my ultimate calling is to be a voice…a voice of awareness, a voice of inspiration, and a voice to ignite a deeper passion inside of all of us. But for today, maybe’s don’t count…it’s the level of awareness that truly counts, and just as important, my hope continues to be that each of you dig real deep, and search for a small place in your heart, and wallet, and make a donation, today!

It takes a small army to help but I’m looking for a few thousand Crusaders with the willingness to support LLS, and the research for finding a cure. Please donate…TODAY not someday!

Please feel free to share my message, and Christina’s Crusaders homepage link. As always, thank you in advance for your consideration, support, and your continued kind thoughts, words, and prayers.

No one fights alone!

http://pages.lightthenight.org/wch/Wstchstr13/ChristinasCrusaders